DON’T: Fine China and Silver
Back in the 60s and 70s, listing fine china on a wedding registry was seen as a MUST. But as generations continue to grow away from fancy and become more casual in meal styles at home, fine china is going out of vogue quickly since it’s easily breakable, expensive and involves a fair amount of upkeep. Unless you’re hosting elegant affairs frequently, skip the fine china on your registry. Instead, if your parents or grandparents have a beautiful set they no longer use that you’d love, it may be worth a shot to see if they’d be willing to part with it, especially since they know it will stay in the family.
DO: Practical Luxury Items
When you place items on your wedding registry, make sure you’re including not only items that draw your eye but also the ones you’ll use. Guests will love walking into your home and seeing the item they purchased for you in use. Practical luxury items are things you probably wouldn’t buy for yourself right at this point in your life, but you know they’d look great and come in handy! Here are some of the top practical luxury items you can ask for without feeling too needy:
– Plush towels
– Classic barware items
– A few top-notch bottles of wine or scotch
– Well-made cookware that is stylish and functional
– A stunning piece of art you and your partner love
– A subscription to an organic or locally-sourced food box for meals
All of these items are things you’ll put in your home and use on at least a weekly basis, and if you buy good ones, you won’t need new ones for a very long time (minus the subscription box). Your guests will feel good knowing what they’re contributing will be used in your everyday life.
DON’T: Kitschy Gadgets You’ll Use Once
So you played Betty Crocker for a week or two over the holidays, and now you’re throwing every baking gadget known to man on the list…no offense, but unless you have an established hobby in baking, you probably won’t stick with it long enough to use all of those gadgets. If you drink wine only a few times a year, you do not need a $100 wine opener. A simple corkscrew will do. If you and your partner have invested over a year into a hobby, such as kayaking, baking, quilting, etc. it’s okay to ask for something on your registry that you both can use.
DO: Kitchen Items
While you’ll want to avoid cluttering your kitchen with a ton of gadgets, that’s not to say you CAN’T put fun and unique kitchen widgets on your registry. Try to pick something that’s usable for more than one task. A waffle iron is a waffle iron; it has one duty and one duty only (although you can make bacon and cheese stuffed waffle sticks, which look pretty darn good!) Look for things like a mixer with various attachments you can add and switch out depending on what task you are tackling.
DON’T: Fund My Wedding Registry
Wedding etiquette is kind of up in the air since weddings are no longer traditional in many ways, but here is where we draw the line. While asking Aunt Jo to buy something off of a registry is fine, asking her to directly fund your wedding is just not cool. Guests probably are spending a good deal of money to attend your wedding and give you a gift. The least you can do is provide them with some great food and entertainment. Crowd funding your wedding is frowned upon, too. First, crowd funding was created for charity, and sorry: a wedding isn’t a necessity for a marriage. Also, with crowd funding, you don’t really know how much money you’ll receive, which means you could overspend thinking you’ll fundraise a ton of money, only to not be able to pay your vendors. It’s better to plan for the wedding that you can afford. No one will frown upon you if you don’t throw a $50,000+ wedding, and if they do, just don’t invite them!
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DO: Honeymoon Fund (CASH/CHECK ONLY)
Wedding etiquette experts have gone back and forth on the topic of honeymoon funds and whether it’s appropriate to ask for money to put towards it. Our take is YES. Why? Because the people donating to your fund want to see you and your new husband or wife have a fantastic time on your first trip together as newlyweds! You’re not forcing them into donating, and they’re free to pitch in as much or as little as they want.
Be warned, though: Honeymoon registries have started springing up online, and while they are convenient, they take anywhere between 3% and 15% of the money your friends and family donate! OUCH! The best way to ask for a honeymoon donation is to include a little blurb on your save the date, invitation or wedding website saying they can give you cash or a check towards your honeymoon. Better yet, pick one or two activities you’d like to do on your honeymoon that guests can donate to. Horseback riding, paddle boarding, a jungle excursion…whatever your fancy is, you can list it! Guests want to see all of the money go towards your honeymoon and specific activities – they’re more likely to donate if they know you’ll receive 100% of what they’re giving.
Good luck and happy registry making!
Kacey Mya Bradley is a lifestyle blogger for “The Drifter Collective.” Throughout her life, she has found excitement in the world around her. Kacey graduated with a degree in Communications while working for a lifestyle magazine. She has been able to fully embrace herself with the knowledge of nature, the power of exploring other locations, cultures, and styles, while communicating these endeavors through her passion for writing and expression. Her love for the world around her is portrayed through her visually pleasing, culturally embracing and inspiring posts.
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